How to Support Someone with Suicidal Thoughts
If you or someone you know is in crisis or having suicidal thoughts, call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org. If you or someone you know are in immediate danger, call 911.
Supporting a loved one who may be experiencing suicidal thoughts can be daunting and scary. It's natural to feel unsure about how to approach the subject or fear saying the wrong thing. However, addressing these concerns directly and empathetically can make a significant difference. Here are key steps to follow when helping someone navigate this challenging time.
Ask the Question Directly
The first step in offering support is to ask the question directly. People often hesitate to bring up the topic, fearing it might make the situation worse. However, avoiding the subject can leave the individual feeling more isolated.1
Initiate the conversation by expressing concern. For instance, you might say, "Sometimes people who feel depressed may feel like life isn't worth living anymore. Has that ever happened to you?" This approach demonstrates empathy and opens the door for honest communication, making it easier for the person to share their feelings.
Use Empathetic and Compassionate Language
When discussing such a sensitive topic, it’s crucial to convey empathy and compassion. Using direct language does not mean being harsh or clinical. Instead, frame your questions in a way that shows understanding and concern for their well-being. By acknowledging the difficulties they might be facing, you create a safe space for them to express their thoughts and emotions.1
Understand the Signs
Being aware of the signs of suicidal thoughts or behaviors is essential. Look out for changes in behavior, mood swings, withdrawal from social activities, or expressions of hopelessness. If you notice these indicators, it’s better to address them head-on rather than waiting for the situation to escalate.2
Be Prepared with Resources
Knowing what to do after the conversation is just as important as initiating it. Have a list of resources ready—this could include hotlines, counseling services, or mental health professionals. Providing actionable steps and resources to your loved one can give them the immediate help they might need and shows that you are committed to supporting them through this difficult time.2
Provide Immediate Support in a Mental Health Crisis
In moments of crisis, immediate help is crucial. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911. If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org. If it is safe to do so, offer to stay with the person or have someone they trust stay with them until professional help is available. Often, just being there for them can provide immense relief.3
Encourage Continued Support and Follow-Up
Support doesn’t end after the initial conversation. Continue to check in with them regularly and encourage them to seek professional help. Let them know that you are there for the long haul and that they do not have to go through this alone.
Supporting someone with suicidal thoughts requires courage, empathy, and preparedness. By asking direct questions, using compassionate language, recognizing the signs, being ready with resources, providing immediate support, and ensuring continued follow-up, you can provide a strong support system for your loved one. Remember, your proactive steps can make a life-saving difference.
Sources:
- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). (n.d.). Help someone else. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. https://988lifeline.org/help-someone-else/
- U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. (2024e, August). Suicide prevention. National Institute of Mental Health. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/suicide-prevention
- U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. (n.d.-b). 5 action steps for helping someone in emotional pain. National Institute of Mental Health. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/5-action-steps-for-helping-someone-in-emotional-pain
